EveryDay People 365 

  January 2014-Issue I

The Male Perspective

Wit Yo Cheatin' Ass!!


On the real, I cheated.  I cheated on a woman who stood by me thru thick and thin.  Thru the days of my first apartment when I had no money, and ate tortilla chips, with pork and beans, and cheese and called them nachos; while my license was suspended and she was driving me to and from work.


I didn’t just cheat; I was that Gerald Levert “Baby I’m ready” type of cheater.  Why did I do it?  How could I betray someone who was willing to give me so much but I was so selfish? My hidden life was so that I had to lie to maintain the lies that had life spawned, most were short term. Damn, I cheated on chicks I was cheating with.  This behavior, if you are involved in it is not the move.  Was it just selfishness, ego, or greed? 


All I know is the weight of carrying that burden was too much for me to carry.  I just knew I was a P.I.M.P. forever and married to THAT game.  The parable of the frog and the scorpion comes to mind concerning my attitude.


“A scorpion asks a frog to carry it across a river. The frog hesitates, afraid of being stung, but the scorpion argues that if it did so, they would both drown. Considering this, the frog agrees, but midway across the river the scorpion does indeed sting the frog, dooming them both. When the frog asks the scorpion why the scorpion replies that it was in its nature to do so.”


Many of you may be embroiled in this lifestyle, but I can ensure you that your day of reckoning is coming and I’m hear to bear witness that the pain of the loss you will suffer won’t outweigh the pain of those you’ve caused undo harm to with your actions.


Be there for your lady, she chose and trusted you with herself, and she may have given birth to your children. That responsibility alone should be enough to keep you focused on the greater prize of uplifting not only black America but all of those you contact.


Proverbs 11 reads “The LORD detests dishonest scales, but accurate weights find favor with him. When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom…”


Be wise brothers, stand on the square with your head high as the Kings you were born to be.

The Obsidian Gent